How do we make decisions?
You just cant make one without comparing.
Now you did read the above, did you make a comparison to answer, yes that seems to make sense or no Rob your off base or such like maybe?
So while you did read a few short sentences, a proposition your brain went and checked, yes or no or just maybe.
The maybe we want to exclude if we are in sales, marketing etc..
Choices we make often are done on autopilot, its already choices we made previously as it seems to hold value to us. The value often is what we rationalize we wanted in the first place. Its seldom are.
Did you really want that last bit of cake? Or did you take it as it seemed like a good deal?
In recent brain experiment, people was going to the cinema, and was offered popcorn, small for 3 bucks and a large for 7 bucks. They all choose the small one, the 7 bucks was to expensive. Next, they added a medium size popcorn for 6.50 bucks.
Now most choose the medium size that cost 6.50…..and once the girl said but the large one is just 50cent more? They all went for the large one and most felt really good choosing the large one as they got a great deal………….
I went to the movies a few months ago, I wanted a small popcorn, so the girl behind the disk said but this one cost less for this and I said, no I want the small one. I wanted a small popcorn yes it cost me a bit more but here is the thing, I just wanted a small one and I didn’t care if I paid more as I didn’t want more. For me that made sense as if I had got more then I be dissatisfied as I didn’t want more. The girl behind the disk was surprised. My action didn’t match her expected choice the customer make.
If you buy things, the value people presents you with is a imagined one. It always is btw. Is there any other value with a painting than whatever we give it? A rock is older than any painting people made why isn’t rocks valued more? Well the painting someone made artistically so we then value artistry and time.
You buy the car after values what you think you gain and get.
A company buying copy machines or computer want endurance stuff that works for a long time most of the time or efficiency.
Those values people expect must be met.
Thing is they can also be used and added so you make such decisions by comparing properly to exclude options that cause doubt or so called maybes.
Once your presented with what to choose your decision making system kicks in, since this is contextual localized information the information you decide already been pre-set for you before. You wont be able to make a conscious decision.
RBIm for example isn’t presented as a technology of choice it is choice. RBIm is evolved NLP it isn’t the right to choose anything it is choice.
The main difference here is, if meaning is localized to govern all your actions what you do then meaning also contain pre-set values before the action is made or that the action lead to the pre-set values.
Which one is it?
Now your faced with a choice a decision to make, what makes most sense?
You then will fall back to what you know. Old information, past memory.
To gain relief from the pressure your brain creates from being undeceive. If you don’t make a decision the brain cant relax. Your stress levels goes up and you cant sleep. You wonder around you get busy and slowly you start drinking and soon loose your job and end up on the street and then die from some bad shit.
All that from not being able to solve a decision?
Your brain don’t like to stay in comparison mode. You want to solve it as fast as possible and then you will rationalize your decision even if tis the opposite of what you want…………….
High pressure salesmen know how to use that to their advantage meaning you buy things you never wanted to buy or give away money you would never give away.
The situation forces you to make a decision that you then do to relive yourself od pressure that only exists there due to we imagine value to what it would mean to us?
Isn’t that funny?
Making it easier to make a decision is what sales, marketing is all about. It isn’t to offer options or choices or such its all about them making sure you make a choice that is whatever they sell to you.
RBIm for example helps you relive stress in life by making decisions aligned with what you desire the most of life and it will help you achieve tremendous relaxation in your daily endeavor and make you successful in what you do.
If the answer is yes you just made a great decision!
Don’t that feel satisfying to you and relaxing?
Its already happening!
RBIm is awesome!
For example when I held a workshop for dyslexics, I asked the parents, why come here? I said I mean if you tried stuff and it didn’t work why would you think a 2 day workshop would change anything?
Parents to kids with dyslexia will try anything until they find something that works and they will pay for it.
I often then would run everyone trough what I do, diagnosis what they do currently, then write it up and then continue with adding the new structure and run that and test that and then say to their parents well it seems your kid already is better and they are measurable so.
They just witness something impossible.
Their kids dyslexia started to transform in front of their very eyes and they will struggle with it but they also know this workshop was worth it.
Scientists tools to measure dyslexia cant do that with what I am doing as the changes happens to fast. Once the kids reach the criterion for the catmodel they then wont be dyslexic anymore.
Now I know how dyslexia works, what to do about it. What is the value of that knowledge? Priceless?
RBIm for example utilize the way the location works with meaning but meaning isn’t random. It also contain actions you do, it contains evidence the recursive action wants to find to be satisfied with whatever your doing and will even fool your brain to nationalize what you did do even if it wasn’t right for you to do. Some call it intuition or gut feeling. However you already knew it was a bad call a bad decision to make and you did it anyway and then the brain kicks in and rationalize it wasn’t………………………….WTF!
I made many things that I been thinking, that I shouldn’t have done but that always happens after the fact. The way changes works is you can only notice the change, after whatever you did do.
I had clients ask me, did this work?
I said, check in with me next week. Some did and said it was just fine now. Most never checked in due to for them the problem just went away. A friend drove me home and asked if whatever I did worked for his kid, I said, call me in 3 weeks. He never did. I called him 3 months later and asked him and he said,w ell you know how it is? I said, No I don’t. So he repeated that 3 times, until he said well its been fine. I said why not call me and say that?
Well you know how it is?
NO I DON’T
His kid changed instantly. He asked me if whatever I did had worked and I said it as I do, I don’t know check with me later. It then takes time for the brain to organize to the new. The brain rationalize the new meaning it is then what its suppose to mean.
I had tickets once to a concert with Bruce the Boss Springsteen. I decided to stay home as I also had a martial arts workshop to attend to, and in the first 5 minutes I was in the class I knew one thing, I made the wrong choice. Still my ticket was given away to a girl who was unhappy and couldn’t go to the concert in Gothenburg and so she had a great time.
For me that become a way to understand that my priorities had changed. I have since then made decisions that would work for me.
Ever since they have.
Our brain wants to resolve uncertainty and making choices isn’t what the brain like so it will take a short cut to think this is what you want to do and since you only ever will know after its done you then cant really know before it happens.
That is an issue for many obviously. How would I know RBIm will work for me? I say, I don’t know Its not for me to say.
Someone asked me when I was to run the one year class if this was a good training and I said, it’s the best in the world. He laughed and signed up, and he found out it was.
Many have nothing to compare what I do to what someone else does, then the value of what I do become indifferent. Its only when they go to a NLP seminar and I had many students telling me after but they cant do shit<?
I said, well now you know how good training I did.
If you have nothing to compare with then you can become really good doing what you do. I never compared myself to other in the field I just done what I did and went with that for a long time. Kids do that all the time compare them selves to other kids, cloths, make up, style and such and then press value of what they are suppose to be like and do in school.
Its then for the brain to solve the difference between what the parents did raise them to be and do and what the school makes them.
Normally the school wins out due to the brain wants to solve the issue of stress of indifference first and it will use survival instincts to do so, make decisions that works to be part of the group vs standing alone. Its why every teen American movie always are about beta zeta alpha and the popular kids in school vs the nerds, geeks or fat girls or fatties or gays or such.
Kids actually thinks you need to belong to a group.
Where did that come from?
Evolution adaptive behavior.
Later they will rationalize what they did do. How important it is with how they look, how popular they are or such and ever wonder how many prom queens ends up fat, doing dishes, boobs hanging out?
Whatever the American dream is made out to be its just another way to think we can become something by comparing and belonging to that group.
RBIm is a tool for you by you.
I show a few guidelines but whenever someone asks me what this is suppose to be about I say, its a tool for you by you. I don’t know.
Sure but once you become enlighten enough and understand that choice then it just make perfect sense.
Its for me by me.
Best decision ever